Relationship Grudges

It is inevitable that so many times relationships are hitting rock bottom and the lovers start to discover that their love was a huge mistake!I never think it is...

What does bother me so many times is the grudges that follow.A grudge is a sentiment like love and hate.Many are the occasions when you meet people who think that they hate someone yet it's some other emotion that's being exuded.Maybe even love for that person.

Some of the first things a person should find out from someone when they are dating,is how their previous relationships ended,those who ended theirs violently will always have some emotions like,too much tendency to fear,mistrust,hesitancy to do some things,even the very normal things because they will remind them of the alleged villain.

Sorry to say,but many of those mostly affected by this are women.The main reasons being their powerful memories and heavily emotional states.A woman's main security most of the times is her appearance.One simple criticism from someone she deems special,concerning her appearance will trigger an almost lifetime reaction that seeks to rectify that part that was criticised.

Many are the times someone meets a lady whose spouse criticised her once about her nose or ear,then she proceeded to get hooked onto plastic surgery,wrecking her whole appearance in the process.

I'd suggest that when someone intends to really have an enjoyable time with a lady,he'd better converse and find out about these issues.A lady may split from a relationship with a man but harbour some feelings they may consider as hate yet they usually yearn for the man and all the things they used to do together.

With ladies,it's usually never over until they can feel in their system that it's actually done with.Let alone cases like rape,violence,that anyone would be entitled to feeling that way.

A split with someone usually has strings attached.Just how much did she love him?How much about what he would do did she love about him?If she is longing for him,she will reveal some hidden nostalgia for the times she used to have with him.