Approval Addiction In Relationships

Well,yesterday i met some lady who works for some some Oil company's marketing department.She's such a likeable person and always wants to share a light moment here and there.

The lady has the responsibility of bringing customers who want to buy fuel to the company,but lately she has decided to undertake a mission to take the fuel t the customers.Funny thing is that she is operating on losses as the company gains.Infact i think she's always done that,and for what purpose?Apart from salary,it's the praise she receives from her bosses.It had me thinking..

This is a type of relationship where one person just wants praise while losing out and the other is just gaining while applying more pressure.Then it hit me...Some people in life are just addicted to so much praise which they'll always toil for!

Now,let's look at the dating or marriage setting..Once someone has figured that all you like in a relationship is praise,then they will definitely start to take you lightly,all they'll do is shower you with praise then demand for more..Which you'll actually give in to because for you,the more praise the better!

Such personalities have a low self esteem that usually has its roots in childhood experinces whereby someone was teased or demeaned too much they lost sense of self worth,self identity goes alongside it.

The only image they get in life is what other people give them through approving and praising them for tasks done.This usually motivates them to do even more to maintain this identity which they cannot do without.

I think this is how some women live with openly abusive relationships.Just because the man has figured that all she wants from him is approval,then he takes her lightly.

Good remedy should involve showing the other person that there's more to what you demand in a relationship than just approval from them.Once they understand the terms,then you'll gain more respect and a stronger relationship.