Relationship Emotional Levels

When we are dating or already in a marriage sort of relationship,there are points at which our emotions will spillover many times.In any sort of relationship or affair,there is usually a fluctuation of emotional levels for the people concerned.


This is what i mean:When two people first meet,their emotional states are well and trully at or above threshhold.As the two people get to know each other more,the emotions usually fade off.Someone suddenly starts to realise that the stunning lady doesn't look stunning anymore!!


I believe that relationships can be maintained successfully by keeping these emotional levels at a constant.Many of the breakups would eventually be prevented.Some of the numerous reasons that cause this fade to occur:


When one of the partners notices some undesirable traits within the personality of the other.Many people have stuff they just cannot stand and their emotional level is at an all time low when they notice that their partner had those same traits they hated.


For many others,their emotional levels fade because of distractions.When someone has to work too much while the other partner is waiting at home.....This is usually a perfect recipe for an emotional killer.The fade in this case just occurs gradually.Soon someone realises that the neighbour or househelp looks better than the partner and away we go...


Another reason is tied up with selfishness.It is the loss of the mood of adventure in a relationship.This adventurous mood is what people always re-ignite when they want to step up a fading emotional level.This adventure mood is what's largely responsible for the early fires in an affair as both people seek unique ways of saying I lOVE YOU!

Someone cannot alaways want the other person to do all the donkey work when it comes to keeping the fire in a relationship at a good required level,such that particular person is in charge of coming up with all the ideas to liven it up.They will get tired when they run out of ideas or get too busy.

For most ladies,they usually let the man make the first move.That's OK.But the subsequent matter of keeping everything alive should be done by both partners on equal terms.Trouble is,most ladies expect the man to just keep doing all the work as they enjoy,or complain for more.....Doesn't work like that(Am i not in for some bashing from women?)

A married couple may take some time off to a weird location for some crazy adventure.When they come back,their levels fully stepped up,they can just work on maintaining that level.


These levels are usually maintained by simply stopping to look so much at oneself and at what someone needs as opposed to what your partner needs.


Trying to look at your partner in a different way each day will reveal alot more ways in which you can keep those early fires burning.Her is one thing you should always watch for and could be the key to a successful affair:


Find out their lowest points in life.Everyone has a low point in life....Heartbreak,hardship,betrayal,poverty..you name it.With this knowledge one will know what powers the partners life.These are usually the points that dictate the functioning of someones life and habits.Just don't be too selfish to notice it.


They represent weaknesses that people usually fight even a whole lifetime to overcomeeven when it's unneccesssary.One should either fight along or lead them away gently to real life.
Am out!